tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post5273952927947703088..comments2024-03-28T12:32:29.797-06:00Comments on Mystic Meandering: "The Situation"Mystic Meanderinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-62148322291123143532012-04-28T21:32:22.596-06:002012-04-28T21:32:22.596-06:00Julie - Thank you for your concern. I have contact...Julie - Thank you for your concern. I have contacted the proper "authorities" to get information - to be informed for myself - to see what action could be taken. There is no law against shooting rabbits and squirrels. There is a law against "firearms" if the pellet rifle is of a certain caliber, which I hope to determine. In this case having the "authorities" (activists or the police) talk to the father about not shooting animals would not help the situation, and could alienate and make matters worse. The best action as I see it is to keep a line of communication open with the father, which we have re-established, but not to confront in an over-reactive, activist way. If it is not in his consciousness to respect these animals sending "the authorities" to the door is not going to change his mind. :) Love *is* acting - in the way it needs to :) And I trust that what is needed will be said and done in an appropriate way at the right time for the benefit of all concerned.Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-79652982284269349952012-04-28T20:39:36.310-06:002012-04-28T20:39:36.310-06:00I know if it was me I would be in contact with som...I know if it was me I would be in contact with some animal activist group that would speak to the father about not harming the squirrels and rabbits. I would think there must be some law that protects these creatures. It's all well and good to "let everything be as it is" but I also know that love takes action. Maybe the lesson is for you to find your voice and confront and educate these neighbors. Good luck... what area do you live in... I could maybe find the proper authority to contact! Certainly some authorities need to be informed of this situation!Julie Squirrelady Gallagherhttp://www.squirrelplanet.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-6156419712127464882012-04-28T14:31:45.839-06:002012-04-28T14:31:45.839-06:00Yes, there is a lot going on underneath the surfac...Yes, there is a lot going on underneath the surface, on both sides, and sometimes the best action is to wait and see what unfolds. There was an interesting twist today that unfolded, which I will write about, probably beginning of next week. Thanks for the additional comment :)Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-52532666830669035942012-04-28T12:13:49.500-06:002012-04-28T12:13:49.500-06:00Sounds like a good plan. It also occurred to me th...Sounds like a good plan. It also occurred to me that the son and father are waiting, too. . . and thus your own waiting may be just what's needed on all sides.Chrishttp://groundswellforchris.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-54452806323585456762012-04-28T11:10:20.462-06:002012-04-28T11:10:20.462-06:00Thank you Kris for your helpful and heartfelt pers...Thank you Kris for your helpful and heartfelt perspective! I agree, there needs to be a clear and unequivocal response, which means I need to work on being clear myself. And, also need to keep the peace, by not over-reacting, and not cause reason for retaliation. I have no intention of becoming the kids friend. That's not my way - and we're beyond that now anyway. Have done a pretty good job of keeping the lines of communication open with the father (regarding other issues we have had). So am treading carefully and collecting evidence :) Sometimes if you give people enough rope they hang themselves. Or so the saying goes :)<br /><br />I love the metaphor of Manjusri's Sword - how appropriate!<br /><br />I think too I have already been dismissed as a "crazy lady" :) So anything I say at this point will be dismissed by them - not taken seriously. So the collecting of evidence and getting clear myself are my best actions at the moment.<br /><br />Thank you for your loving words of encouragement. That in itself gives me courage and the perspective to handle this from the Heart! Thank you!Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-38833228319731498002012-04-28T10:09:40.186-06:002012-04-28T10:09:40.186-06:00Oh boy— sounds like a very difficult situation. Re...Oh boy— sounds like a very difficult situation. Reading your post, my heart contracted with such fear and anger! Having interacted with you for some time now via your blog, I feel confident you will handle this situation with compassionate intention. <br /><br />I think there are situations where a loving heart must express a clear, unequivocal response— no squishy let-me-be-your-friend-and-teacher stuff. Your neighbor's actions sound dangerous and harmful. I think the situation demands "Manjusri's sword"— a clear, decisive, determined response. The energy of fear and anger can be transformed into compassionate action by clear intention. It's easy to write these words, but so much more difficult to live them. For me acting with decisive, clear-sighted wisdom does not come easy.<br /><br />I would document as much as possible and move forward with resolve to bring in the appropriate legal authorities for both the child and parents. I don't know what that would be— court ordered counseling? Removal of the gun? <br /><br />I wish I could fill you up with strength and courage, and that everyone could come out of this safe and wiser. I don't have answers but I do have faith in your ability to do the best thing, to find the best way, because I've come to know your heart.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11518981252382574336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-37000803582845604622012-04-28T09:54:37.648-06:002012-04-28T09:54:37.648-06:00Thanks Chris - Yes it is difficult to know what ac...Thanks Chris - Yes it is difficult to know what action to take so as not to inflame the situation and be fearful of retaliation. As I have watched this kid I have seen how angry he is. It could really turn ugly. So we're laying low and waiting for an opportune moment. Waiting for the Universe to act so-to-speak.Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-58347503410879754792012-04-28T09:50:54.918-06:002012-04-28T09:50:54.918-06:00Thank you Daryl and Ruth. Yes I know. I grew up n...Thank you Daryl and Ruth. Yes I know. I grew up next to a kid who did very similar things - killing birds for fun and such, and he became a delinquent, on drugs and landed in jail - or so I heard. We moved away many years ago. But it sure seems like he is a "troubled" kid that needs help.Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-38546775942683431732012-04-28T09:48:51.928-06:002012-04-28T09:48:51.928-06:00Thank you Dear ZDS for this wonderful offering! Ye...Thank you Dear ZDS for this wonderful offering! Yes, emotional well-being is an issue here too. This situation creates such tension while the kid is around, wondering what he's going to do next - which means I'm hooked into the situation. And I agree about not reacting out of anger, and asking for inner help. And wasn't it so cool that that target just showed up! goosebumps. :) Am trusting that the "right action" will reveal itself, as it has in the past with "chance" opportunities to talk to the father. I like the idea of "making friends" - not with the kid, as I don't see that happening, but with "the situation." It rings true to me and already has given me the sense that I could look at this a little differently if I make friends with it. It's true that I need to come from a deeper place within to handle this one! Thank you, thank you! :)Mystic Meanderinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746429719911446865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-86308087176217120992012-04-28T09:15:10.808-06:002012-04-28T09:15:10.808-06:00Wow. This is difficult on so many levels. . . and ...Wow. This is difficult on so many levels. . . and I agree with ZDS----we can learn from this, so thank you for the details. No easy "answers."Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07914839749802740935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-74396868577999075862012-04-28T05:58:10.143-06:002012-04-28T05:58:10.143-06:00Sorry to hear about your problem. Unfortunately, t...Sorry to hear about your problem. Unfortunately, these parents will be the ones who will look dumbfounded and wonder what happened when their child is arrested.<br /><br />Hope it works out.<br /><br />Darryl and Ruth :)Living In Williamsburg Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14442680855290062641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8905400852427551541.post-65587739852597457942012-04-28T00:51:06.792-06:002012-04-28T00:51:06.792-06:00well for starters my heart goes out to you. and my...well for starters my heart goes out to you. and my concern is for your emotional well being, if that makes any sense. having come to my Buddhist practice through an encounter with a neighbour I am aware of how this type of situation and relationship can "poison" the whole environment.<br /><br />I can't offer any advice only observations from my experience with a difficult neighbour. Any action taken in anger (no matter how slight) will get us in trouble. (I learned this the hard way.) Our perspective becomes obscured by annoyance even though we may have "grounds" for our position (ie danger, etc). Their behaviour has nothing to do with us but we can get caught in the middle by engaging and feeling "right". As you have found out, reason probably doesn't work.<br /><br />I have been in situations where the answer comes from deep inside, from the helplessness we feel, if that makes any sense (asking for help from somewhere).<br /><br />You are in a tricky situation and I think you perceive the difficulty of it. There is a teaching here, just as you mention the target floating over onto your patio. Use this is some way that uplifts you. I keep thinking the best way would be to make friends somehow. I also know that may not be possible. <br /><br />I look forward to hearing how this goes for you. We can all learn so much from it!ZenDotStudiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06051368546505731081noreply@blogger.com